You’re either with me or against me…

You’re either with me or against me…

… is not, and never will be a viable problem solving strategy, because problems can be nuanced and sometimes are not so straightforward. And such a strategy draws a line in the sand – creating an indolent way to deal with an issue we don’t care about enough to really understand. Most of all, an […]

Identification vs. Resolution

Identification vs. Resolution

Talk of New Year’s Resolutions has evolved to the point where it’s no more than fodder for all types of media to keep us cognizant of our flaws, make us eager to launch a campaign of improvements and assume responsibility for positive change. The morning shows like Today, are the best at taking the lead […]

I’ll Get to It Someday

I’ll Get to It Someday

Someday. That’s pretty open-ended when it comes to getting started on something or setting goals that people claim they want to reach. Someday, why not now? This is the question I usually ask of clients who have all sorts of explanations and rationalizations for why they can’t act now, but can’t tell me when the […]

Giving Up Guilt – A Tonic for Personal Success

Giving Up Guilt – A Tonic for Personal Success

I rarely work with a client who isn’t feeling guilty about something and I routinely hear the voice of guilt coming from the mouths of friends, colleagues and family members. So what are the origins of guilt? We’re certainly not born with it as we all enter the world powerless in need of the care […]

I don’t know the first thing about this

I don’t know the first thing about this

But you do. You know enough to know that you’re not knowledgeable enough yet about what you’re embarking upon, seeking or desire to learn. It’s much more likely that you don’t know the last thing. And because you’re not knowledgeable enough, you know enough to know to be wary of possible pitfalls, traps and roadblocks […]

The Right Way to be Vulnerable

The Right Way to be Vulnerable

By vulnerable, I don’t mean weak, needy or unable to handle our own affairs. I mean making the voluntary decision to mention a failure, mistake, setback, or poor choice to others within our circle of trust. I believe that the more we do this – the more we drop the pride act and ask for […]

Embracing imperfection is the only way to go…

Embracing imperfection is the only way to go…

…because it takes all the pressure off of having to do the endless rewrites and tweaks. It alleviates the stress of having to find just the perfect word or product or service that will be indisputably captivating to whomever you intend your work to reach. And even if you’re not shipping your work elsewhere, you […]

Maybe there’s a misunderstanding

Maybe there’s a misunderstanding

Might it be possible that your client, employee, friend or spouse misunderstood you – or you misunderstood them? What just happened feels horrible to you, and if it was done on purpose, it makes it all the worse. But before you burn the bridges and boats and scorch the earth, leaving ruin in your wake, […]

Empathy

Empathy

Empathy is a bridge to appreciating someone else’s pain or discomfort. Our ability to bring others along is important because one day the situation will be reversed; and a family member, buddy or maybe even a competitor will be the one to listen and care about us and what we’re going through. Remaining silent just […]

A Surefire Way to Expand Your Reading

A Surefire Way to Expand Your Reading

If you’d like to expand the range, depth and breadth of your reading, pick up a copy of the Wall Street Journal, Weekend edition. Go to the “Review” section of the paper, and you’ll find several pages of book listings – accompanied by in-depth commentary on the book’s content and the author’s positions. You’ll find […]