It’s Not a Plot

It’s Not a Plot

Yesterday as I driving around town running some errands, I came to a signal light. As the light turned from red to green, the driver of the car directly in front of me began honking his horn incessantly. He was honking at the driver of the car directly in front of him, who had responded […]

Creating Meaningful Work

Creating Meaningful Work

If you’re really doing work that matters, it’s likely that your work has been criticized or challenged. This is because you’ve decided to take a stand or adopt a position that is off-putting to others. Alternatively, if your goal is to be universally liked, your work isn’t nearly as meaningful, because you want to please […]

Fear Resolution Made Simple

Fear Resolution Made Simple

Resolving fear doesn’t have to be a convoluted process, and the gravity of the fear in terms of the adverse effect it is having on you requires the same steps if it is to be resolved successfully. Employ these 3 steps consistently, and you’ll be able to put practically any fear behind you:   Identify […]

Understanding Procrastination: It's All About The Stakes

Understanding Procrastination: It’s All About The Stakes

I’ve examined procrastination from every angle – in general and in my own life – and I have concluded there are 2 reasons for it. We harbor fear regarding what we’re procrastinating about. We don’t want to do the work required to achieve the task, resolve the issue or face the dilemma. Procrastination results from […]

With really anxious patients…

With really anxious patients…

..do a lot of threat assessing. Instruct them that when they’re anxious, it means their brain has them thinking and believing they are in danger, when they’re really not; so work toward getting them to acknowledge their overreactions to perceived threats. In this way, they’ll learn to evaluate how significant or insignificant a specific threat […]

Managing the Space Between

Managing the Space Between

For all of us – at least from time-to-time – there’s a gap between where we are now, and where we believe we ought to be or want to be. It’s a space between our current reality and our future possibility. Think of this space as vast and expansive as the Pacific Ocean and you’ll […]

We act on something in our lives when…

We act on something in our lives when…

We act on something in our lives when… the desire for it is so strong that we don’t want to be without it; or the pain for it is so strong that we don’t want to be with it.

The Faster We Can Communicate, The More We Should Slow Down

The Faster We Can Communicate, The More We Should Slow Down

In addition to training, writing, doing therapy and conducting consultations, I have a voiceover business. Last week during a practice session, I had read a script for my coach and received this response: “Joe, slow down, this is not a race to get to the last period.” I believe much the same can be said […]

Don’t Create Failure

Don’t Create Failure

The easiest and sometimes the most convenient thing for us to do is to default to the negative in our lives. I’ve seen people, after being congratulated by dozens of others regarding an accomplishment chastise themselves for omitting something or second-guess the quality of their product, service or performance. There will always be something we […]

Pessimism versus Optimism

Pessimism versus Optimism

The pessimist sees what’s happening today, but expects only an eventual drop-off. After all, the glass is already half empty, so it’s bound to develop a crack, with the contents eventually leaking out all over the place. The future is only going to get worse.