Principles Guiding My Psychotherapy Work

Principles Guiding My Psychotherapy Work

I’ve been doing psychotherapy for quite some time, and I have 3 principles to guide me: I’m acutely aware that people come to me for all sorts of reasons, but not all of them are associated with getting better. As such, they may not really want to be helped. Yes, change of any sort is […]

But What If We’re Successful?

But What If We’re Successful?

Fear of failure is one of the most key reasons – if not the most key reason – for why we procrastinate, sell ourselves false promises, quit a project or just simply don’t show up for duty. Continuing to push through the fear can be quite the challenge. Fear of success though is at least […]

Dissatisfaction Comes First

Dissatisfaction Comes First

If you’re intent on creating something from scratch, launching some new effort, or for that matter, making something better than it already is, there’s going to be disappointment at first. This is because the challenges associated with getting started or up to speed are bound to be dissatisfying – when compared to what the project […]

There’s Still Time

There’s Still Time

I write often about decision-making in my blogs and articles; how it’s wise, I believe, not to dawdle when making them because rarely is a decision   something from which we can’t someway recover. But might there be exceptions? I got to thinking about bad decisions and what influences our doing so. Two reasons: We’re in […]

Who Do We Want To Be?

Who Do We Want To Be?

It’s true, we reap what we sow. Time and effort we invest is returned to us, with interest – although rates vary. If we practice a difficult piano piece 5 minutes a day, we’ll get better. If we spend the same amount of time per day dramatizing our life, feeling unhappy, entangled in fear and […]

Replicating Success

Replicating Success

By nature, I tend to reflect a lot about my life – what’s working, what’s not, how much energy and focus I’m going to devote to A,B or C. I especially like to know what’s influencing my success. Two factors came to mind, which I’ll share here: The first is the need for a support […]

unsustainable relationship

Some Relationships Are Unsustainable

I ran into a friend last week that I had first met at a Church function. We exchanged pleasantries, caught up a bit on one another’s lives and then came to “let’s get together sometime.” I haven’t called since the encounter and neither has he. A few years back at my most recent high school […]

decisions

There Are Many Right Ways

Decision-making… daunting, to say the least for many, if not most of us. The thing is, we often have an answer or a solution, but we vacillate because we just might be missing something – and that something is the optimal choice for solving a problem, improving a relationship or launching a new initiative, for […]

Getting It Wrong Before Getting It Right

Getting It Wrong Before Getting It Right

Really, is there any other option for carving out a path to success?

Doing It Wrong, At First

Doing It Wrong, At First

Remember how learning to ride a bike? If you’re anything like me you learned by doing it wrong, falling off repeatedly, getting up, getting back on and doing it again… and again… and again. Actually, this approach works for lots of things. We learn best by doing something wrong the first time, then a little […]