Eureka Moments

Eureka Moments

Granted, we don’t and shouldn’t have them every day, because if we did, such moments would not likely rise to “Eureka” status. Eureka moments are breakthroughs, realizations or discoveries which we experience suddenly and unexpectedly. And unless they’re captured, they will vanish as quickly as they were recognized in the first place.

Vulnerability

Vulnerability

I meet people all the time who seem to be stewing about issues in their lives. They’ll reel off a series of complaints or worries about this and that, seemingly lost in a sea of words that are going nowhere — certainly not in a solution-focused direction. I’ll ask them “are you seeking any guidance […]

The Infectious Nature of Self-Criticism

The Infectious Nature of Self-Criticism

The first step in any infection process is to colonize the host. This process runs a similar course in those infected by a seemingly never ending litany of self-directed negative barrages. Like bacteria and all viruses, self-criticism is ever in search of a victim. And the thing is there’s no amount of external validation from […]

Adult ADHD: Warning Signs

Adult ADHD: Warning Signs

The American Psychiatric Association (APA), which publishes the DSM, has for the first time given credence to adult ADHD, dispelling any lingering beliefs that it is only a child and adolescent disorder. Here are several potential warning signs for adults which may indicate that an ADHD evaluation is in order.    

Some People Don't Want To Be Helped

Some People Don’t Want To Be Helped

There are essentially two types of help that we’re able to offer people — unsolicited and solicited. Offering unsolicited help often falls on deaf ears because, by definition, it was unwanted in the first place; thus it’s often eschewed by those receiving it. And it only benefits those offering the help — some of whom […]

How About Some Botox for Depression

How About Some Botox for Depression

Botox, botulinum toxin A, has certainly been on a run in recent years – spreading its wings way beyond its use as an anti-aging treatment. Known primarily for the ability to reduce the appearance of some facial wrinkles, Botox injections are also used to treat such problems as repetitive neck spasms, excessive sweating and overactive […]

The 4 Step Process to Behavior Change

The 4 Step Process to Behavior Change

If you want to change a behavior, follow these 4 steps.

In 2015, I Resolve to Improve Myself...Or Maybe Not

In 2015, I Resolve to Improve Myself…Or Maybe Not

Resolutions which are set to begin in the month of January are popular because people just love the idea of starting anew with something by wiping the slate clean, so to speak. Here’s why most of them fail: First, there are usually NO consequences whatsoever for not doing right by what is going to be […]

Shedding the Fear

Shedding the Fear

If you’re either gripped by fear or wish to avoid having to face it, here’s what to do: Encase yourself in your own version of a protective bubble of some sort; that is, isolate yourself. Then tightly control who or what you allow into this world. Take absolutely no risks, even reasonable ones. Play it […]

Please Like Me

Please Like Me

Every year I speak at a conference that allocates one block of time to an aspiring speaker. This year when I sat in, Jim was well prepared, enthusiastic and worked the audience to a fault. He made himself available at break time and took every question asked of him, thus his program ran over 15 […]